The dreaded sex talk. But…I don’t dread it.
I don’t mean the talk about what sex is…I mean the talk about when it is apprioriate, and the one where I ask you to come to me if you need anything.
I will not tell you “wait for marriage.” Actually, please don’t. What if you are sexually incompatible? That would be awful.
I will not tell you “if you have sex before age (fill in the blank) you are a slut/whore/bad person.” While I hope you wait until you are old enough to face any potential consequences (emotional, babies, etc), I just want you to choose the right person for the right reasons. That is all. If you are a teen, or adult…if it is right for you, then I am happy for you.
Sex isn’t taboo. It isn’t bad. It can be amazing. But that is dependant on it being with the right person, and being ready.
Honestly, when I was young, my mom made me think sex was very taboo. The girls having sex were whores, and I was forbidden to have sex until I was an adult.
Waiting until adulthood isn’t a bad idea. But, honestly, it meant I didn’t lose my virginity to the right person. The person I wanted to lose it to died tragically before we were adults. So, when I was older I lost it to a boy who didn’t mean as much.
I don’t want to place such restrictions, or any guilt on you should you decide you want to have sex. It is your decision, and nobody else’s to make. As your mom, I just want to guide you to make good, responsible choices. Think of consequences for your decisions, and be prepared for any outcomes. I trust you to make good decisions.
I just hope that when things get serious, you are comfortable enough to let me know, and to discuss anything you need to.