I was always under the impression that when you love someone, that love should be unconditional. Especially when it comes to loving a child.
My oldest recently graduated high school. Because I haven’t been with her bio dad since she was a toddler, and he is married and his parents are divorced, there are 3 sets of grandparents on his side of the family. My husband’s parents are also divorced, so there are 3 sets on my side as well. Then, there is a bonus set, with my youngest child’s birth family, who treat all of our kids as their grandkids.
So…who acknowledged my daughter’s big day?
My mother came to the ceremony (my dad died last year for new followers).
My youngest son’s birth grandparents sent her a graduation card and gift.
One of 3 of my siblings sent a card and gift.
Her Godmother, who I speak with roughly once a year (because life is busy) showed up to the ceremony with a card and gift.
My daughter stopped speaking to her bio dad a year ago. There are many reasons. At this point, she says she is no longer angry. She just feels this is the right choice for her, and life is better this way. However, whether she acknowledges him or not right now (cuz we all know relationships can change over time), him not showing uo to see her graduate sure won’t win him any points to mend the relationship.
Not one grandparent on his side even sent a card or congratulated her. No acknowledgment. Apparently, their involvement is conditional on her relationship with him.
My husband’s family also didn’t send any acknowledgements. I am not on good terms with one side, due to politics and my incredibly strong feeling regarding their support of Trump for president, and the implications all that brings. I don’t believe they could possibly be supportive of our family with their political views. But, our relationship shouldn’t extend to how they treat the kids…yet it is. None of my husband’s siblings sent any acknowledgements either.
And honestly, I am mad as hell.
A lesson in how people suck for sure.